About five years ago, I remember chatting about the LGBT movement that the media splashed about. I believe that five of us were involved in the conversation (all participants will remain unnamed). It was during the time when Chick-fil-A’s chief operating officer publicly denounced same-sex marriage. It’s clear in my mind because I can remember picking my daughter up from work (which was located next to the Chick-fil-A), and there being a major traffic jam because of the long line of cars, filled with so-called saintly people, who were waiting to purchase their hate-filled dinners in support of discrimination based on sexual preference.
Anyway, one of us four women took a hard stance against it. This individual spouted on about how it was a sin, and that the two lesbians partaking in the conversation were headed straight for hell. She said it went against human nature, and it was an affront to traditional marriage. My jaw dropped.
I couldn’t believe how smug she was in her belief that only her perspective had merit. Her narrow mindedness shocked each one of us. I sat there, ears burning, as her hate-filled narrative assaulted me. Assaulted us all. At the same time, I experienced an overwhelming sense of compassion for the two lesbians, who both forced back tears, as their life choices were belittled and thrown back in their faces as the greatest sin of mankind.
Neither one of these women deserved her wrath. And honestly, who the hell was she to cast such judgment on another person. Surely, she wasn’t perfect. In fact, she was going against one of the ten commandments herself; judging these two women like she was the holiest of all holy people.
Reflecting on this I’ve concluded that smug self-righteousness exposes a person’s true hateful nature. It’s revealed in the holier-than-thou rhetoric that is seen so often today. Don’t get me wrong. I believe that it’s good to have strong convictions and beliefs, but not at the expense of someone else’s humanity. No one has the right to strip away another’s sense of self-dignity.
Before a person imposes their set of beliefs on someone else, I believe they should pause for a moment to consider how their rhetoric impacts others; consider their own imperfections before imposing judgment on another. Just because they might not make the choice someone else has made, it doesn’t make that choice wrong. It’s simply just wrong for that specific individual. Maybe we need to practice that adage, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all,” a little more.