The people in my life, who know me well, know that I don’t soften the truth. For anyone. Not at any time. If someone asks me a question, regardless of the type of question, they know with great certainty that I will give them the brutal truth. I won’t gingerly dance around it. I won’t choose delicate words. I won’t spare their emotions. It’s just not me.
You might say this is callous or unfeeling, but I think total honesty is always the best policy. Too many times I’ve needed a reality check only to receive a skewed version of it. In my experience, this has never served my best interests in the long-term. Not once. Not ever. Let’s face it – the truth comes out – eventually, and I would rather know it up front instead of being slapped in the face by it down the road.
While some people have an aversion to the nitty-gritty facts, most of them in the end wished they had just known in the first place. I mean, why shock your mental state like that? It can be jarring, and in my opinion, much crueler in the end. So, while my candid honesty shocks initially, ultimately, it’s kinder.
I’m sure by now you are thinking ~ ack, no way I want to ask her a question ~ but I will tell you, those who have experienced it typically come to me when they need to know. When they feel like knowing the truth is the best thing for themselves. And they’ve come to count on me for it.
My matter-of-fact attitude is driven by my need to care enough to be honest. Those in my life that are close to me know that my motivation isn’t one of sadistic pleasure. Quite the opposite really. I want to help prepare them for what needs to be done, and no one can prepare on a version of the truth.
I’m sure you’re wondering if I expect the same level of honesty in return. I do. I crave that honesty. And those who step up to the plate and deliver that are the ones who I am unfailingly loyal to. I would literally jump through hoops of fire for them, even if it comes at a great risk to myself.
It’s not easy hearing the truth, but in the end, wouldn’t you rather have that, then a watered-down version of it?